If you have never lived in a place with racial tension it is hard to grasp the turn of events in #Ferguson.  To better understand the dynamic, watch “Do the Right Thing” by Spike Lee.  In the movie, racial tensions mount to the point that something has to give, resulting in events similar to what we are witnessing now.

Growing up near the neighborhood of West 65th and Lorain in Cleveland, Ohio during the late 80’s and early 90’s racial tension was an everyday occurrence.  This is the time racial diversity took place in our neighborhood, or at least the time I remember meeting others my age of a different race.

The diversity seemed to be mostly an integration of black and white, though there where other races as well.  I use the terms black and white because that is what we knew at the time, I am aware of the Politically Correct terminology.

Those of us who where White had a crisis on our hands.  Who do these “people” (use your imagination as to the words we actually used) moving into our neighborhood think they are?  As people of different skin tones moved into our all white neighborhood tensions began to mount.

The tensions carried over into the schools.  One morning in 7th grade while standing at my locker the white student student standing next to me was punched multiple times in the head because he was White.

In our neighborhood a black youth around my age was called every name under the sun, and yes names no one should ever call African Americans.  Another black youth was spit at multiple times because of his skin color.

Eventually we learned to accept one another, or at least put up with each other.  Acceptance was not because we learned to appreciate our diversity, but was simply the result of our reality.  The neighborhood was now a racially mixed neighborhood, whether we liked it or not.  Plus, we had a new enemy, Hispanics where moving into “our” neighborhood.  Who do these ” new people” think they are? (Again, use your imagination).

Understand that in our neighborhood, Police and civilians were not friends.  Law Enforcement was considered a threat.  Likewise, we were threat to Police as many of use carried weapons.  In fact the music we listened to at the time glorified the shooting of police officers.  Contrary to what we in the middle class teach our children, for us the police did not protect serve.

I can not speak to the recent events in Ferguson.  However, having once lived in a racially tense neighborhood, I am not surprised by the riots.  At some point tensions boil over.

These riots are not due to a one time event, but are the culmination of several incidences spanning several years.  Many of these events are never reported by the news.  Recent events are but the tipping point of frustration that many of us never hear about.

Are the riots in Ferguson the Right Thing?  I’m not sure Spike Lee gave a clear answer either.

One final thought: I am not proud of my thoughts and actions toward those of different races as a child and youth.  It was in part due to the culture in which we lived and in part due to the prejudices we all have toward others.

My first day of Kindergarten I screeched in fear with tears rolling down my face as for the first time I laid eyes on an African American child.  I thought she was burnt.  I am deeply ashamed of this incident, yet the first 5 years of my life consisted of people just like me, how would I know better?

Perhaps the events in Ferguson bring us back to the question; Who are these “people” think they are?  Instead of using our “imagination”, maybe now is a good time to learn who these people are.  We do know better!

David.

As the holidays approach our stress level increases.  How can we cope?  We can get through with three important steps; 1. exercise, 2. exercise, 3. exercise. 

You read that right, to deal with stress we need to 1. exercise our physical bodies, 2. exercise our minds and 3. exercise our faith.

1. Exercise our physical bodies: Physical exercise does wonders at alleviating stress.  Walking, stretching, lifhting weights, playing with the children all release endorphins into our bodies which make us less stressed.

2. Exercise our minds: Reading is a great exercise for our brains.  It also something I struggle to do regular.  When we exercise our minds, i.e. read, we become smarter and carry less stress.  Read any good books or blogs lately.  BTW, reading articles on ESPN does not count.  Read something relevant, perhaps even the Bible.

3. Exercise our Faith: We exercise our faith through prayer and worship.  Often when we are stressed we stop attending church.  We also forget to pray.  The times we are stressed are when we need prayer and worship most.  Prayer and worship is about giving thanks to God which takes our focus off ourselves.  Get to church and exercise your faith.

To cope with stress this holiday season, or any season, remember to exercise, exercise, exercise.

DHF

Ever wonder where the day went?   Do you lay down at night and fell as though you got nothing accomplished?  Do you feel like you are chasing time, only to realize time has caught up with y.

Some days are just chaotic; we never seem to get done what we intend.  Continue reading below to learn how to take control of your day and stop chasing time.

Take control of your day

1. Prioritize.  Each day (or the night before) decide on one task you want to accomplish at home and at work.  Focus your energy until that one thing is accomplished.  After it is complete, move on to the next most important task.

2. Manage distractions.  We can never limit all our distractions.  Co-workers want to talk.  Children want to play if we work from home.  Facebook is waiting to be checked.  Our favorite show is coming on soon.  All of these distractions keep us from completing what is important.  Manage distractions by taking control.  Limit the times we check Facebook.  Turn off the TV and get to work.  Talk with your co-worker for 10 minutes then excuse yourself to return to work.  As for children wanting to play.  Sometimes we just need to engage them.  In other words, we need to wear them out for a nap, during which time we can focus on our work.

3. Control your Time.  We often feel like we have accomplished nothing because we have no idea how we use our time.  Track your time for a week.  How often do you watch TV, check Facebook, search the web.  These things use up our time  and keep us from other responsibilities.  They are not bad things to do, but without limiting their use we quickly spend several hours engaging in meaningless activities.

Accomplish those things you want to accomplish by Prioritizing, Managing Distractions and Controlling your Time.

Stop chasing time and take control of the day

What time management tips can you offer?